Too much change, too quickly may leave us feeling shaken and insecure. When life is unpredictable, when we lack control over a situation, we tend to fear the future.
The perception that we have limited control does not need to cause fear. A child, for example, can entrust his welfare to his parents. In a similar way, a person who believes that God has a plan for his life can trust him with his future and dispel fear.
As our fear increases, our confidence diminishes. The Bible teaches us that perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:8). Love, God’s love, is the antidote to fear. It is also the key to confidence. Embracing the truth of God’s love for us will replace fear with peace and assurance.
Every person is worthy of love. No other person is more worthy of love than you are. Nor are you more deserving of love than they.
We tend to measure people’s worth by accomplishment. If we were to have exactly the same opportunities and abilities as another person we could do what they do and become who they are. But we all have a different mix, so the result will be different.
If I were to experience the same disadvantages as another person who does not appear to be prosperous, I would be in the same situation. If I had the same decision making processes, for instance, I would make the same choices.
The good I experience is a gift. For this reason I am obliged to love my neighbor.
One of the best ways to build confidence is not by focusing on ourselves, but by helping others and becoming others-focused. Gretchen Rubin has a few tips on how to feel better about yourself in Want to Boost Your Self-Esteem? Throw Away Someone Else’s Trash
….you don’t get healthy self-esteem from constantly telling yourself how great you are, or even from other people telling you how great you are.
You do boost your self-esteem when you keep a difficult resolution, meet a challenge, solve a problem, learn a skill, or cross something unpleasant off your to-do list. And one of the best ways to feel better about yourself is to help someone else.